7 Checkpoints: Moral Boundaries - Sex

Sex is a very good thing. God created sex. Sex was God’s idea. Where do we find out about sex?

Radio Personalities
Magazines
Porn sites
Movies
TV
Friends
Sex Education

Most of you by now think you know a little bit about sex.

Sex can be unbelievably fulfilling (and fun) – (ppt.party favors). Or sex can leave a person feeling used and empty (ppt.flat tire/dirty diaper). Which one do you suppose that God intended?

Where do babies come from (don’t say ‘test tubes’)? Babies come from a man and a woman having sex. I know this is gross, but you wouldn’t be here if your mom and dad didn’t have sex. (mom fade in/dad fade in/baby fade in)

But, God intended sex to be amazing. It is probably the greatest most fulfilling thing that you will ever do.

I want to tell you a story about a dad and his three sons. Their mom was away visiting their sister at college. One night the dad and the boys were all sitting in the living room and talking about mom. Dad made some brownies. The boys loved Dad’s brownies. They were always perfect. They melted in your mouth. The boys couldn’t wait to dig in to the brownies. The dad had something else on his mind, though. His oldest boy had a girlfriend and his other two were reaching that age. It was time for the ‘sex talk’. The boys knew that mom and dad had a great relationship. They were comfortable with eachother. They obviously loved eachother. So their dad simply told them this, “If you want to have as good a relationship with your wife as your mother and I have, then you will wait until you are married to experience sex. Now how about those brownies.” Then he said, “Before you eat them, I need to confess something. When I was mixing the brownies, I carried the bowl outside while I went to get the mail. I tripped and dropped the brownie mix in a fresh pile of doggie doo. But don’t worry, I think I got most of it out.” One by one the boys scooted away from the brownies. Then the dad said, “If you mix your brownie mix with doggy doo, no matter how much, it just won’t be the same as what your mom and I have.”

God designed sex to be an amazing thing for a husband and a wife to experience together for the first time. So why wait? One word – Intimacy (ppt.Intimacy)
Intimacy is the joy of knowing someone completely and being known by that person with no fear of rejection. You don’t have to think about, “what happens in the morning?” If I let this guy touch me, then …

How do I get intimacy? One word – Purity (ppt.Purity)
Maximum purity = Maximum intimacy (ppt.)
Impurity erodes your capacity to experience intimacy, and because of that it

Maximum purity = Maximum intimacy = Maximum sexual satisfaction
Maximum impurity = Minimum intimacy = Minimum sexual satisfaction

Purity paves the way for intimacy

Girls: You don’t really want sex. What you want is intimacy. You want to meet a guy, fall in love, and know that you can trust that person completely. You want to share everything there is to know about you without fear of betrayal or rejection. You want to know that person fully and be fully known. What you are after is intimacy, not sex!

Sex is not just physical; it is relational.

Read Genesis …

When Adam and Eve had sex, they didn’t just ‘have sex’. They became one flesh. There is something mysterious and spiritual about that experience. It’s not something you have any control over. The Bible says, “Do you not know that he who unites himself with a prostitute is one with her in body?”
It is impossible to simply have sex.

When you participate in sex outside of marriage, you forfeit the opportunity to become uniquely one with your future husband or wife.

With every sexual encounter, you decrease the significance of sex with your future partner.

God is not against sex. He created it. He is not against teenagers. He created you, too. God isn’t against you having sex. He just wants you to wait for marriage.
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Breakout Session Guide D.L. stands for Discussion Leader -
When you hear the word “sex”, what do you think of?
DL notes: This is kind of a broad question. When should it happen? When does it happen? Why does it happen?

What are you feeling right now (are you grossed out, are you excited, is it something that you look forward to or is it something that you are afraid of)?
DL notes: Don’t let them get hung up on this one for too long, but you are looking for what their perspective is right now on sex.

How many of you have had conversations with your parents or friends about sex?
DL notes: If the answer is yes, then what did they say (Parents and Friends both). If the answer is no, then why not?

Where do you get your information about what sex is about? (TV, movies, friends, magazines)
DL notes: Try and find out what their impression of sex is from what they hear and observe from these resources.

What do you think sex is about?
DL notes: Another way to ask this question would be: Why have sex? What is so great about sex?